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Question by Matti: Etiquette for setting limits on birthday gifts for 3-year-old's party?
My kid is turning three, and is having his first "real" party. We expect about 15-20 other toddlers. My real goal with this is for him to have a day that's all about him. Lots of kids coming to HIS event, to play with HIM, and eat HIS cake, and give HIM presents. He is helping pick out the invitations, decorations, and goodies for gift bags, and is very excited already.
At the last party he attended, he gave a nice $ 15 board game that he had helped pick out. Most of the other birthday boy's gifts were pricey gizmos that I'd passed over as far too pricey ($ 40+) for a three-year-old! I am not interested in getting lots of new toys (frankly, he's got too much stuff anyways) -- but at the same time, I think he should get SOME things.
How can I strike a balance between letting people give my child fun, nice gifts, but requesting they avoid the expensive crap my kid doesn't need (or want) anyway? Preferably while still sounding like a nice person, not a prim uptight twit...
For reference, we're talking about lower middle class families here (same as I am) -- lots of minimum wage incomes, single moms, recently laid off parents.... None of us are "high rollers" 🙂
Answer by Jessica
I have requested on the birthday invitation that people stick to gifts under a certain amount before. No one got offended. And in fact, several felt relieved because they no longer felt obligated to buy an expensive gift. I just add it at the bottom of the invitation. I have also done no gift parties for my kids at time because I'm tired of all the junk piling up in their room.
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